You'll get over me, which is what I want. I think you're probably not far from over me already.
I have said before that the entertainment industry is so grotesquely codified by gender that men and women in that industry are not able to interact with each other in a normal way. The social and professional lives of the people in that industry are not only entwined but enmeshed.
The success of women in that industry is based on the way that they look to such an extreme that even intelligent women, even educated women, are warped by it. Although looks are also part of male success in that industry to a much higher degree than they are in other industries, men do have more latitude to both be goodlooking and be taken seriously in parts that are not about sex and that also don't rely on a female protagonist's quest for love to the exclusion of everything else that makes a human life meaningful.
You're not used to women who are like me; most of the men in your industry aren't, because the industry has mostly demanded that women who want to be financially successful as actresses inhabit roles that are one-dimensional and demeaning to them, or at least that the main characters that women play are never considered as central to THEIR OWN LIVES and the plots of the movies as male, main characters.
Life is better when men don't walk around thinking that they're the only true human beings, thinking that women are lesser beings or superior beings whom they can't understand. Men who can't think of women as being like them in all the ways that matter will always feel alone in a world that they mistakenly perceive as having nothing in it except other men who are friends or foes.
Copyright L. Kochman, March 9, 2016 @ 5:39 p.m.
