That doesn't mean that my life is over, it just means that I'm not young.
If the sad and awful years that were the largest percentage of my time as a young adult didn't teach me not to impose on the youth of other people when I got older, they should have; I think they did. I can be proud of that. I never dated a much older person, but there were some older adults when I was young who had near-total control over my life and whose decisions about me were bad for me.
Nobody was ever made younger by dating a much younger person; many a young person has lost his or her youth to an older person, though.
Also; what's the use of getting older if you don't grow to be someone who can tolerate and even like having younger people around but who isn't silly enough to expect them to be able to understand you like people your age can?
When I say that I don't want to date people who are a lot younger than I am, it's not because I feel bad about myself. It's because I don't want a young boyfriend who's going to annoy the hell out of me.
Copyright L. Kochman, January 9, 2016 @ 3:07 p.m.
