That's the address of an article at the website "Jezebel."
I have to disagree with the author's assessment of Exeter's motives for its policies about acceptable forms of social dancing. I think that probably what the administration is trying to do is encourage its students to treat school-organized social events as social events and not as pre-mating rituals.
I do agree with her objection to chaperones who fail to enforce a "no shirt, no admittance" policy for its male students at such events.
It's true that I was her age at a time when "grinding" wasn't something that all suburban kids knew how to do by the time they were in high school. I remember the one time that I tried it, which was at a school dance so far in the past that chaperones didn't yet have policies for it, or know what it was. I started laughing, which was unfortunate for my partner, because my lack of coordination ended our time together on the dance floor when my upper teeth accidentally landed on his cheekbone. Stitches were not required.
It's crucial that everyone, regardless of gender, investigate social constructs and be part of the conversation about gender, power, privilege, and other issues that affect how people live their lives. I think that her essay is an earnest beginning; hopefully, it's the start of many things that she and people of her generation will write.
Something I noticed was that, although she claims to have had culture shock, she seems to have thoroughly and unconsciously assimilated the tendency of many intelligent, American women to try to make everyone who might object to their intelligence feel better by ending her biographical epilogue with the lament that she doesn't know where her "calculator for engineering school" is. She didn't have to do that; the world is full of people who will try to make her feel stupid, who will try to make her and other people believe that she is stupid. She doesn't have to give them an advantage by supporting female stereotypes of women being ditzy and impractical no matter how smart they are. If boys and men are socialized to try to seem like they know more than they do and never to admit fault for anything, girls and women decidedly are not.
It is difficult to fight that socialization. I know where my calculator is, but did I have to include the description of my ineptitude for certain forms of dance, however far in the past the embarrassing incident was?
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Copyright, with noted exceptions, L. Kochman, June 2, 2016 @ 3:23 p.m./edited @ 8:58 p.m.
