If Jackie created the persona of Haven Monahan, it doesn't mean that she wasn't gang-raped in an assault planned and facilitated by Drew, WHO IS A REAL PERSON! THE CHARLOTTESVILLE POLICE IDENTIFIED HIM, BASED ON JACKIE'S INFORMATION!
I think that Haven Monahan and the question of whether or not Jackie was raped are separate issues. Jackie would have told her friends that she was going out with Haven Monahan to make Ryan jealous; that would mean that Drew had asked her out a week before September 28, and then Jackie did the texting as Haven Monahan with Ryan, so that Ryan would know that someone thought she was attractive even if Ryan didn't.
When she got raped, and was devastated, what was she going to tell her friends about who raped her? The rape culture and denial at the University of Virginia are so pervasive that she had to be terrified to suddenly tell her friends that Haven Monahan wasn't real and then tell them that she did get really raped by someone else. What was she going to say, "Haven Monahan isn't real but I just got raped, believe me?"
Then there's the EVIDENCE that Ryan knew or suspected the entire time during which he was texting with Haven Monahan that he was texting with Jackie. It's not as if Jackie invented the idea of "catfishing"; Ryan and Alex and the female friend probably all knew that Jackie was trying to get Ryan to like her, and they thought it was cute or funny or something to do with their time. Ryan can't call Jackie a liar, using Haven Monahan as proof that she's a liar, without calling himself a liar, also, because he participated in it.
What are they trying to say now, that they didn't know that she was lying? That seems highly improbable to me. They're trying to say that Jackie is manipulative, a liar, just wants attention? She was so persuasive at 18 that she could convince Ryan to pretend to be a girl named Brianna and to ask out a guy whom he had never met or seen, but Jackie couldn't convince Ryan to go out with her?
It seems to me that Ryan knew that Haven Monahan was Jackie trying to get him to like her, so he liked her Haven Monahan "lies" because he liked her infatuated attention.
It was only after Jackie got raped and the school's culture of victim-blaming began that Ryan and his friends did more of exactly what they were portrayed doing in the Rolling Stone article, which was to distance themselves from her by turning into interrogators about Haven Monahan and doing what they could to discredit her.
This poor woman; it's just a first-year infatuation that she had with Ryan, like what almost all people in their first year of college have for other people. He probably didn't want to date her because he was lusting after the types of women who get raped a lot less often at UVA; the ones who get invited by fraternity men to date functions instead of lured to gang-rapes, the women who have a lot of money, the ones who have the money to go to school out of state, which Jackie didn't have even though her high school grades and high school activities were good, the ones who choose to be at UVA instead of prestigious schools in other parts of the country where they would be out of their home territory and confronted with talented and even richer people than they are, from all over the world, instead of treated like royalty in their cozy enclave at the University of Virginia.
There was even a media story that I read that said that Jackie had bought her beautiful dress and paid hundreds of dollars to take Ryan to a concert; the story tried to make it seem as if there were something wrong with her because she did that. If a man did that, and the woman accepted, knowing how much he liked her, and she continued to say "I just want to be your friend," his friends would have a lot to say about that woman, from "Why do you let her take advantage of you like that," to "You're whipped, guy."
It was also that story that said that Jackie wore that dress, which was probably an expensive dress for her budget, on her date with "Haven Monahan/Drew" and the story tried to make it seem like that was bad, also. Why wouldn't she wear that dress? Do you buy a dress that's a lot of money for you and then only wear it once? Also, why wouldn't she wear it for her date with Drew, and talk to her friends in person before the date, hoping that Ryan would see what he was missing, happy that someone liked her when he didn't?
If Haven Monahan was Jackie's invention, she was trying to end that lie by October 2, 2012, by telling Ryan that Haven had dropped out of school.
Nobody has considered the possibility that if Jackie emailed her will to Ryan as Haven Monahan, it was because she wanted to kill herself and might even have been planning to do it? Probably, she and Ryan and Alex and their female friend all knew that "Haven Monahan" was something that she started as a joke, so why hasn't anyone considered the possibility that emailing her will was a cry for help? She felt as if she couldn't talk about it with anyone, didn't she? The rape crisis people at the University of Virginia not only failed to help her, they added to her trauma by victim-blaming her and and lying to her, telling her that the frat was "out of Charlottesville police jurisdiction." It seems to me that, as far as the University of Virginia and the Greek system are concerned, every fraternity is out of every police jurisdiction.
She got no help from the school. She felt like she had to act like everything was fine. If her will was a cry for help to Drew, she felt like she had to tell him something else when he asked her about it. She later told Rolling Stone that she bought rope to commit suicide.
People aren't a lot of fun when they are overwhelmed by trauma. Most teenagers don't know how to deal with it when their same-age friends have horrible experiences and are suffering in a way that doesn't stop and that changes their personalities and ability to cope. When she needed the most support, she couldn't get it from anyone, and that made her increasingly a lot less fun every week. Eventually, those friends just didn't want to be around her anymore; who wants to be around someone who is in pain all the time because of something that everyone around you says doesn't happen and doesn't matter, and when you know that you will be attacked if you object to that culture of rape and denial, not just socially among people your age, but institutionally, so that speaking out could ruin your college and professional careers?
I think the Rolling Stone article got those three friends accurately; they don't like it. Who would?
That's the Web address of the article that tried to make it seem like a young woman who buys a dress, bus and concert tickets for a friend whom she also wants to date is someone who should be condemned.
The text messages between Jackie and Ryan from October 7, 2012 show that they hadn't gone to the concert yet by then, about a week after Jackie was raped. It seems as if she only got to wear that dress once. It could be that Ryan was even thinking about dating her, before she got raped.
http://www.scribd.com/mobile/doc/298611022/Text-messages-between-Jackie-and-Ryan-Doc-can-be-enlarged
That's the Web address of the publication that has the most of the text messages of any that I have seen so far. The picture of text messages on this blog page is a picture that I took of part of that publication. The publication is what I'm referring to when I talk about the other text messages.
The media keeps changing its story about when Jackie contacted Ryan.
The CBS 6 broadcast said that she called him at around 11:30 p.m. That news station also interviewed Ryan and Alex.
Several media sources, including the Washington Post, have reported that Jackie sent Ryan a text message at 10:23 p.m., asking him what he was doing. Ryan texts her that he's doing work.
The next message is from Jackie to Ryan, about three hours later, saying "Hey they're walking me home so you're fine."
Who's walking her home? From where? I thought that what Ryan and Alex said was that Ryan and Alex and their and Jackie's female friend went immediately to where they said she was, a mile away from the Phi Kappi Psi house, as soon as they got her frantic phone call.
Jackie told Rolling Stone that she was raped for three hours.
20:23 is 8:23 p.m., not 10:23 p.m., so the Washington Post inaccurately reported that time.
That's a picture of the January 8, 2016 Washington Post article that has this Web address:
The Washington Post seems to have gotten a lot about the story wrong, even when its reporters and editors had the transcripts of the texts right in front of them.
The text when Ryan wants to know what's going on is at 11:35 p.m., which is when he told CBS 6, or CBS 6 inaccurately reported, that he got the first phone call from Jackie, the phone call that caused him to get their other friends and meet her somewhere on campus.
If Jackie mistakenly told Rolling Stone that it was after 3:00 a.m. when she woke up after being raped, she can be forgiven for it. The article also said that she was punched in the face, in addition to being raped.
I have a lot of schoolwork to do every day. I wrote some of this at Broadway station, and was cough-harassed by two people while I did.
Copyright, with noted exceptions, L. Kochman, February 11, 2016 @ 8:36 a.m./edited February 15, 2016 @ 11:25 a.m.
